Prudence and Restraining Anger
Prudence and restraining anger are etiquettes of Islam; they consist of self-control toward things that agitates anger and emotion.
We can say about a person that he is a prudent one and restrains anger if he controls and restrains his self, gives up his right, pardon others when they curse him or provoke him by an act or word.
These two attributes are some of the nobler ones and dearest ethical characteristics which the aware struggler person should be endowed with because they represent a proof for the soul's loftiness, nobility of character, and behaving well in rage and provocation situations.
God Almighty in His Holy Quran praised the prudent ones and those who restrain anger by saying:
﴾and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good﴿ (Aal-imran: 134)
﴾And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend. (34) But none is granted it except those who are patient, and none is granted it except one having a great portion [of good]. ﴿ (Fussilat: 34-35)
﴾and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace ﴿ (Al-Furqan: 63)
The instructions of the prophet's family was in this pattern, the Commander of the Faithful Ali (A.S.) had heard a men once cursing Kounbar, so Kounbar stood to answer him, suddenly the Commander of the Faithful (A.s.) said: "Oh Kounbar, wait, leave the one who had cursed you and say nothing to him, by this you will be pleasing God, disgruntling the devil, punishing your enemy, I swear by God, that nothing can please God more than prudence, and nothing can disgruntle the devil other than keeping silent and not replying on the curse, and nothing can punish the stupid more than keeping silent and not answering him".
With regard to the importance of prudence in our life, the imams ordered their Shia to be prudent ones even if you will be affected while doing that, so that, day after day, the person can get accustomed to this attribute till it become accompanied and firm one.
It was narrated about Imam Al-Sadiq his saying: "If you aren't a prudent person, then try to imitate the prudent once to be as such".
The Commander of the Faithful said concerning this the following: "If you aren't a prudent person, then try to imitate the prudent once to be like them, since if a person imitated the others, sure he will be one of them".
Some people might consider that prudence, forgiving people, treating them gently, and giving up their personal rights are signs of weakness and disgrace; on the other side, the sane people consider this as characters of nobility, loftiness of morals, and causes of the powerful personality which he owns that let him control him self in some situations. Hence, the more the person becomes great, the more he will be noble-minded and exalted, and he will be far above from following the foolish and the ignorant ones with their recklessness. In other words, his weapon will be prudence, restraining anger, and forgiving the others, which will let him be estimated, respected, praised from the others and escorted by God's satisfy.
It was narrated about Imam Mohammad Al-Baker (A.S.) his saying: "God is kind, and He likes to be gentle with others, so if you were gentle with others, He will reward you, but if you behave violently with others, He won't reward you".
Eventually, all praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the worlds.