Q: Please tell us the ruling on backbiting in the following cases:
1- Two persons discussing a known matter relating to a third person.
2- Two persons discussing good qualities of a third person.
3- Parents’ criticizing somebody’s behavior in front of their children to raise
them with good manners.
A: Generally speaking, if a real matter relating to a believer person is
discussed in their absence so that they would be angry if they heard about it
and is actually mentioned for humiliating them or considered in the common view
as humiliation, it is backbiting and impermissible. That both parties know it,
it is done in order to raise the children with good behaviors or the like does
not justify backbiting. However, the ruling of backbiting does not apply to
talking about good qualifies of somebody. There is no objection to giving
information [about somebody] in consultation either.