Once again, I came into confrontation with my father. He said: "If you have any
problem or issue, [then] say. Speak and tell me so that I can understand."
I answered him: "I don't [even] want to get married."
He said to me: "He is a good young man and he has what you want." And he added:
"I think that you didn't have the chance to see Abbas well. What do you think if
I take you to another place and you see him more clearly?"
My father spoke and counseled [me] a lot to the extent that I agreed upon seeing
[Abbas] a second time in the end. However, I didn't want to meet him face to
face and my father agreed upon that as well and suggested for the meeting to be
at the shop (we had a shop for selling bags).
To the rear of the area of the display of the bags -where they dangle in a way
in which I felt comfortable in standing behind them- Abbas came at the appointed
time. My father greeted him, welcomed him warmly, asked about his affairs, and
then seated him on a chair in the place directly opposite to me. I saw him well
from the open spaces between the dangling bags.
Later, Abbas told me: "When you came to the shop, it was obvious that it was a
plan and that you had arranged it."
He used to say: "From the start, I knew where you were sitting and you were
staring at me."
I asked my father to speak to him frankly about my studying, to take from him
decisive words, and to place a condition upon him that he won't prevent me from
continuing [my] education.
They had told him about me and my stubbornness but he didn't care. He used to
say: "I have put my trust in Allah. It is as if He has inspired me to fulfill
This is the reason why he didn't overly [exert himself] or make an extra effort.
Some people thought that after marriage, his presence with me would lead to a
decrease in his trips to the front, but Abbas used to say decisively:
"As long as there is a war and I have the ability, then I won't stop going to
By the way, I also expected that of him and I was happy because he thought that
On that day, when he spoke to my father about education and my condition not to
stop studying, I was sensitively anticipating his answer. I had heard that at
the beginning many men accept any condition and when the matter is fulfilled
they forget everything. I had prepared myself to hear his answer that I could
continue my education, but he said:
"There is no problem in studying as long as it doesn’t [negatively affect] our