Some of you mothers may, or may not relate to this...
A few months ago, as I was picking up the children from school, another mother I
knew well rushed up to me. Emily was fuming with indignation. "Do you know what
you and I are?" she questioned. Before I could answer, and I didn't really have
one handy, she blurted out the reason for her question.
It seems she had just returned from renewing her driver's license at the County
Clerk's Office. Asked by the lady recorder to state her "occupation," Emily had
hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. "What I mean is," explained the
recorder, "Do you have a job, or are you just a . . .?" "Of course I have a
job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother." "We don't list 'mother' as an occupation.
.'Housewife' covers It." said the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation;
this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed a
high-sounding title, like "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar". "And what
is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I'm a Research
Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she
had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most
significant words. Then I stared with wonders as my pompous pronouncement was
written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire. "Might I ask" said the
Clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have
a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't?) In the laboratory and in
the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my
Masters (the whole family of them) and already have four credits (all
daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities
(any mother cares to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day (it seems more
like 24). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and
the rewards are in satisfaction rather than just money."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed
the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway buoyed up by my glamorous new career, my lab
assistants, aged thirteen, seven and three greeted me. And upstairs I could hear
our new experimental model (six months) in the child-development program testing
out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant. I had scored a beat on bureaucracy.
And I had gone down on the official records as someone more distinguished and
indispensable to mankind than "just another...?
What a glorious career!