The world of adolescents has special and different features from the world of
young people. The point is that parents are usually very careful about their
behavior towards their young children, their spouses, and the old people. But
they are not that considerate about how they treat their adolescent children.
Adolescents do not understand the meaning of limitation well. They just want to
be independent and they do not want to be imprisoned in the limitations you, as
parents, impose on them. Therefore, imposing such limitations usually ends in
arguments and fights. Parents have every right to be concerned about their
parents, but they need to find the right and appropriate way to observe their
Adolescents do not like to talk to their parents about the details of their
daily tasks. They want to be as independent as they could. But these very
characteristics could make parents worried and nervous. They do not always know
how to react to their children. All the parents seek for ways to help them have
a positive relationship with their young children.
The more some parents try to get close to their children, the more distanced
they get from them. Expert psychologists believe that parents need to learn how
to behave so that they will have a mutual relationship with their children and
that the children feel willing to talk to them.
Parents should have in mind that adolescents usually tend to trust their friends
more than their family members, and this is a natural process in people’s
growth. Therefore, they need to find ways to observe their children without
interfering in their affairs too much.
Any other method but that, won’t work. For example, if parents ask their
children where they are going, the answer will usually be, “Nowhere.” And if
they ask, “What are you doing?” the answer will often be, “Nothing.”; these
questions and answers will only make both sides tired and angry.
by: Sadroddin Musawi