Friendship

How to Increase Friends

When fear of Allah becomes the character of the believer, generosity his nature and mild temper his trait, dealing with Muslims as though they are one family: the elderly of them your fathers, the younger of them your sons and your peers among them your brothers, when you tell yourself that the Muslim who is older than you surpassed you in faith and good deeds, then you say he is better than me, the one who is younger than you is later than you in committing sins, and the one who is your peer you are not sure about his sins but sure about yours, leave not doubt dominate over sureness, when you are lenient in dealing with others.

Sources of Loss of Friends

Self-admiration, bad manners, lack of patience, mistrust, alienation, tracking of shortcomings and spying, when we are not tolerant about the shortcomings of friends, the one who befriends the enemy of his friend, the one who makes company to the fool, the liar, depraved, rude or the one whose relations with his relatives are bad, the one who slanders people.

The Best of Friends

The one who is angry with you for three times while never says bad things about you, the one whom you are proud of, the one whom when you aid he aids you, the one whom when you serve him he sanctifies you, the one who when he knows a good deed you performed spreads it, the wise and the ones with high mentality, the scholars and the sage, the God fearing, the generous, the one whose secret deeds are as good as his public ones, the one who sees your traits ornamental, the one who does not change attitude towards you when his rank becomes higher, the one who does not let you down in times of calamities, who advices regarding your defects, who keeps amity with you when you are away, the altruist who prefers you to himself, who prefers you to his money, children and bride, when you remember he helps you and when you forget he reminds you, the one who aids you to obey Allah.

* Book: Materialwest. By sayed Sami Khadra.